“To be honest, I thought you were quite clumsy.”
This was Alex’s response when I asked him what his first impression of me was. Needless to say, I was expecting something a little more endearing. However, I had to admit, it was funny (and true). But what else could I expect from a man whose dating profile said this and only this: I am a very boring person. And so our story began…
I think if you would have asked Alex or myself if we would ever have imagined that we would end where we are today we would have said no. I have always been a planner. My entire life had a timeline and I knew where I wanted to be by what age. As time went by and the world continued to turn, I realized my “plan” was not the one God had in store for me. After years of what I considered to be loneliness and heartache, I met Alex and after our second date, I knew this was the man I was going to marry. Something deep in my soul, at the very pit of my being, told me so. That feeling of being so absolutely sure of something gave me such peace.
Alex and I are very different people. I am sometimes wound tighter than a ball of yarn while Alex can sit in a thunderstorm without a care in the world. I tend to make the world’s problems my own while Alex can clearly identify what is actually worth worrying about. It’s these differences that help us to learn from one another and grow into better people…together.
I can wholeheartedly say that marriage with Alex is easy. He makes my life better. He makes me see things in a new light. He helps me to appreciate life and what really matters. Whenever I think of our partnership I think of the quote by Emily Bronte from Wuthering Heights: “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” This resonates with me because even though we are so different as individuals, at the level of our souls, our most inner self, we are the same. And that, to me, is what true love really means.